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Rob Scaife

Loss & grief
Personality disorder
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Me in a nutshell

I have a deep interest in people from diverse backgrounds and great admiration for the various creative ways we adapt to challenges faced in our lives. Being an identical twin has given me a deep understanding of relationships, which I draw on to help others in my work as a therapist. Besides therapy I love to listen to music, explore the world and be in the sunshine whenever possible.

What most fascinates me about my work...

The idea that we actually have an ongoing relationship with ourselves, not just other people, and that this is the longest standing and most important relationship we have, and one which needs proactive love, attention and care, too.

Something unexpected I’ve learned from my clients…

That we need to have respect and admiration for the way that people adapt to life's challenges - even if these creative adaptations might also be causing problems. Often they serve a vital purpose when we're little, helping us to survive as best we can, but fast-forward to the present and they are no longer needed and often become problematic, hence the need for therapy. It’s inspiring to think about our almost endless capacity to adapt, survive, move forward, and to have a window into that process as a therapist is often quite moving.

My specialities

  • Abuse
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Loss & grief
  • Personality disorder
  • Relationships
  • Self-esteem

I also work with most of the major psychological and mental health issues.

My qualifications & experience

  • Doctorate in Counselling Psychology and Psychotherapy
  • 9+ years of training in a diverse range of therapy approaches and psychology
  • Honorary Psychotherapist at Homerton Hospital in Hackney

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a more structured, goal-oriented approach to therapy. According to CBT, destructive behaviours result from unhealthy emotions, and unhealthy emotions stem from distorted patterns of thinking - for example, overgeneralising, catastrophising, magnifying negatives and minimising positives. CBT helps clients to identify and challenge these cognitive errors, to replace them with more realistic thoughts and to learn coping skills and practical strategies that minimise dysfunctional behaviour.

Existential Therapy

Existential Therapy focuses on our subjective way of being here and now and the unique meaning we give to our experiences. In this approach, there is no right or wrong way of being. Instead, it's important to realise the power and responsibility inherent in our choices, the freedom to make new ones and the need to face reality, rather than try to escape from it. Existential therapy explores our unique responses to universal questions like alienation, despair, meaninglessness and mortality, but its ultimate goal is to help us live with deeper awareness, authenticity, courage, presence and awe.

Psychodynamic Therapy

Psychodynamic therapy looks at how our early experiences shape our present lives. Its main insight is that problems often arise from painful childhood experiences that have been pushed down to the unconscious because they may be too painful for the conscious mind to process. These repressed emotions don’t go away but resurface to haunt our current relationships. The goal of therapy is to examine our current challenges at their roots, to make the unconscious conscious so we can understand ourselves and stop replaying past conflicts into the present.


My fee is £50/hour (daytime) and £55/hour (evening, after 6pm). I offer a reduced rate of £45/hour for an initial assessment, where we will have the chance to meet each other, discuss your aims and explore how we may best work together.